The best listeners focus their attention and recruit other senses to the effort.Hearing is passive while listening is active.Hearing and listening are not the same things.Listening helps you understand yourself as well as those speaking to you.Listening more than any other activity plugs you into life.Not being able to listen will prevent you from discovering the poetry and wisdom within peopleĬhapter 2: that sinking feeling – the neuroscience of listening.We opt for digital communications like email or text so that we can give the minimal amount of attention needed for that interaction.Most of the people who claim to be good listeners are probably not.But many of the people said they spoke to professionals who they paid to listen to them.Only a lucky few could name one or two people.When she asked people who listens to them, a lot of them had to pause and couldn’t answer.The majority of the people are just lurkers or observers.Even the majority of the content created online is created by a small subsection of people.Bad listeners aren’t necessarily bad people.Truly listening to someone is a skill many people seem to have forgotten or perhaps never learned in the first place.Reader’s note: The author is going into how loneliness in society today is a real epidemic because of how people are feeling disconnected from each other It’s something I’m trying to improve and cultivate as it is one of the most powerful tools for leadership Chapter one: the lost Art of Listening I personally feel like listening is one of the skills I’ve been trying to develop the most.
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Reader’s note: So apparently this author is a professional listener and this book is a guide on how to listen better. Developing the skill of listening is a super important skill as a leader and dealing with people in general. I think listening is super important and something more people need to learn about. Not sure what to expect but I’m sure it’s gonna be a good book. I believe I got this recommendation via Audible. I appreciate every donation as it goes directly to the maintenance costs of my blog and creation of new content. ~If you enjoy my summary, please consider buying me a coffee via my Ko-Fi link (click the button below) or support this blog in one of several ways! 📖 🎓 It’s time to stop talking and start listening.” -Audible
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Equal parts cultural observation, scientific exploration, and rousing call to action that’s full of practical advice, You’re Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain’s Quiet was to introversion. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we’re not listening, what it’s doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here. And it’s making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. So do our politicians.ĭespite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. On social media, we shape our personal narratives.Īt parties, we talk over one another. “ At work, we’re taught to lead the conversation. You’re Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why It Matters by Kate Murphy Synopsis: When all we crave is to understand and be understood, You're Not Listening shows us how.Get the audiobook on Audible 👇 (affiliate link) While it may take some effort, it's a skill that can be learnt and perfected. Listening has the potential to transform our relationships and our working lives, improve our self-knowledge, and increase our creativity and happiness. And the cleverest people can be the worst at it. Improvisational comedians and con men are much better at it than most of us. Listening is about curiosity and patience - about asking the right questions in the right way. New York Times contributor Kate Murphy draws on countless conversations she has had with everyone from priests to CIA interrogators, focus group moderators to bartenders, her great-great aunt to her friend's toddler, to show how only by listening well can we truly connect with others. Now more than ever, we need to listen to those around us. We’ve become scared of other people’s points of view, and of silence. So we tune things out or listen selectively - even to those we love most. Modern life is noisy and frenetic, and technology provides constant distraction. This life-changing audiobook will transform your conversations forever.Īs a society, we’ve forgotten how to listen.
When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you?
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